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These are just a few of the ways in which anxiety can wreck lives. There are many more. Is one of the following you - or are you all of them?
You may have tried psychological therapy such as CBT - but the homework was just one more thing to worry about!
Medication makes you feel 'doped' and only works as long as you keep taking it. It doesn't 'cure' anxiety.
You learnt breathing techniques but they don't always work and you still get anxious.
You see people who haven't a care in the world and you envy them… You are afraid it will always be like this...
Although I'm a psychologist I too have been there, done that and… I got over it for good. My own experiences gave me the opportunity to study first-hand what worked and why. (see My Story if you want details)
I found there were times when I knew very well what I should be doing to unlearn my panic but I couldn't bring myself to do it there and then. I also caught myself kidding myself that I was doing what I knew I should and wondering why to wasn't working. Then in the end I realised that I hadn't actually really been doing it, but had been cheating and allowing myself off the hook.
I know it's scary to really do what the professionals say you must. I'm a professional and even I cheated for many years. But in the end I had to front up and practise what I preached in order to get my life back - for good.
When seeking help for anxiety most people look for ways to stop or reduce it. They try one treatment after another but none of them seem to stop it in the long term.
In reality just about any of the common treatment approaches DO work put people fail to actually do what they advise.
So when I devised the treatment approach that worked for me and didn't feel too awful to do - but it still requires you to keep at it, although this can be a pleasure rather than something to dread.
So what is this treatment? I call it:
All the anxiety-related problems described on this site have the same mechanism at their core. Understand that and the way forward becomes much clearer. It also becomes do-able, day by day and step by step.
Understanding comes before techniques if they are to be meaningful and successful. As you work your way through the information contained here you will come to see why. Trying to get rid of anxiety is the wrong way to go about it because...
If you are looking for a quick fix I'm not offering that. Anxiety isn't a virus or an illness which just attacks a person at random. Anxiety is always the result of thinking habits, although many of these have been learnt unintentionally.
The only way to get rid of a bad habit of any kind once and for all is to unlearn it. To do this will require you to keep at it just as you would with any other habit you wanted to get rid of. But if you do, you will get the rewards. Any quick fix will not be a lasting fix. A slow and steady fix will be once and for all.
Promise yourself that from this moment on each day will take you a little bit closer to becoming the person you truly want to be - Baby Steps.
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